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Reality Check with Jeanne Allen, June 18th
Erica Komisar, LCSW is a clinical social worker, psychoanalyst and parent guidance expert who has been in private practice in New York City for 25 years. She is best known in the media and parenting groups nationwide for her recent book Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters. Based on more than two decades of clinical work and breakthrough neurobiological research on caregiving, attachment and brain development, this book challenges established concepts (and myths) of infant resiliency, ‘having it all’ and even the definition of feminism. One thing this book is not about is quitting your job. Author Komisar emphasizes, “It’s not about working vs. not working – it’s really a book about more is more.”
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By Erica Komisar, July 25, in the Washington Post
As I sat in my psychotherapy office with the mother of a 3-month-old girl, she expressed concern over her feelings of boredom while caring for her daughter. Her quiet days of feeding, diapering, dressing and entertaining her baby left her disinterested, and she longed to return to her fast-paced life as a litigation attorney.
I empathized with her and her bored and uncomfortable feelings, and told her that mothering, as with other work, inevitably involves moments of boredom. However, if a woman’s principal feeling toward her child is disinterest, it may be a sign of postpartum depression.
By Erica Komisar, July 11, 2018 in the Wall Street Journal
American liberals sometimes hold up Sweden as a model of social order, equality of the sexes, and respect for parental responsibilities. Its welfare state offers excellent free or subsidized prenatal care, 480 days of paid leave for both natural and adoptive parents, and additional leave for moms who work in physically strenuous jobs. Swedish parents have the option to reduce their normal hours (and pay) up to 25% until a child turns 8.
By Erica Komisar in NY Post
Working moms are more likely to have children with mental illness, according to psychoanalyst Erica Komisar. “I was actually seeing an epidemic level of mental disorders in very young children,” the author of “Being There” told The Post. Her advice for working moms is to maximize attachment time at home. “Put all of your distractions in a basket: your computers, your iPads, your phones.
Don’t pick them up ‘til your baby goes to sleep,” Komisar warned. In the United States, 27 percent of new moms go back to work after just a few weeks.
By James Taranto in Wall Street Journal, October 27, 2017
Motherhood used to be as American as apple pie. Nowadays it can be as antagonistic as American politics. Ask Erica Komisar.
Ms. Komisar, 53, is a Jewish psychoanalyst who lives and practices on the Upper West Side of Manhattan. If that biographical thumbnail leads you to stereotype her as a political liberal, you’re right. But she tells me she has become “a bit of a pariah” on the left because of the book she published this year, “Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters.”
By Erica Komisar, New York Daily News
I am a mother and I work, but I am a mother first to my three teenagers.
As a psychoanalyst and parent-guidance expert, I have seen society increasingly devalue mothering while idealizing work. At the same time, I have seen an epidemic of troubled children who are being diagnosed and medicated earlier and earlier with ADHD, early aggression and other behavioral and social disorders.